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Somatic Sexologist
Sex, Love, & Relationship Coaching
WHO I HELP WHAT I DO-
I help men master sexual confidence, emotional presence, and secure, satisfying intimacy.
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Welcome and lovely to meet you!
Call me Tori, aka Victoria if you’d like.
I’m a somatic sex & relationship coach with graduate-level training in psychology and human performance, shaped by 15 years working in the adult intimacy industry, performance, and lived experience in kink, non-monogamy, heartbreak, and devotion. I’ve lived the wounds and the healing, with deep embodiment that allows me to read bodies, energy, and attachment patterns quickly—helping clients move from confusion into confident, secure connection. My work blends science, somatics, radical honesty, and play to help people make their sex life a true work of art.More than anything, I offer a safe space for your emotional and erotic desires to unfold. I practice with clients on Zoom and in person in New York City.
My Credentials Formal & Non-Formal-
- M.S. Exercise Science & Sport Psychology
- Somatica® Sex & Relationship Training + LGBTQ Facilitation
- ISTA Sacred Sexuality
- CrossFit Trainer, Yoga Instructor, Health & Sex Educator
- Thai Massage training (Thailand)
- 15-year performer, non-monogamy & BDSM experience
- Foster care → self-built life → homeowner & global traveler
- Deep grief, abandonment → secure intimacy & leadership
- International culture, community living, chosen family
My Personal Transformation
WHY I’M A GREAT COACH (THE SHORT VERSION)
I’ve lived the wounds and the healing
I understand attachment, abandonment, desire, and repair
I’ve navigated kink, non-monogamy, heartbreak, and devotion
I can read bodies, energy, protection, and longing quickly
I combine science, somatics, psychology, and real-world experience
I’m direct, playful, grounded, and deeply empathic
I help people go from confused → confident → connected
The Somatic® Philosophy:
What is Somatic Sexology?
Somatic sexology blends leading neuroscience research with holistic body-based modalities to help people improve their sexual health, deepen intimate relationships, and enable personal growth. This is made possible through touch, sound, movement, breath, and mindful practices that replace the existing habits currently inhibiting clients from unlocking the gratifying life, rich with love and erotic pleasure they desire.
What is My Secret Sauce ?
I combines talk-based coaching with more experiential, hands-on practices to help you learn the techniques for drawing deeper mind-body connections in others. Radical realness, Somatic touch & sensation, Nervous-system safety, Playfulness + depth, Direct communication, Nurturing & embodiment, Kink-aware, shame-free presence, Movement, voice, and role play performance.
Services
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1-On-1 Sex Coaching
Together, we will embark on an immersive exploration of the connection between your mind and body to elevate your sexual experiences and relationships. Through this journey, we will reveal your individual passions, nurturing a path towards deeper self-discovery and sensual contentment.
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Couples’ Coaching
Let's explore the experiences you both have in common, deepening your bond and enriching your connection. By gaining a mutual understanding and respect for each other's wishes and limits, both partners can pave the way towards a more profound level of intimacy.
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Workshops
Interested in booking a speaker or workshop for a small group? Explore interactive workshops focused on sex and intimacy. Topics covered include: effective communication and consent, connection building, the biology of sex, pleasure amplification, and personal exploration.
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Coaching For SWers
If you are a Sex Worker seeking assistance, whether it's for personal or professional reasons, we can collaborate to tackle issues such as ensuring workplace safety, nurturing personal connections, setting boundaries with clients, and addressing trauma related to your work.
SLIDING SCALE
I am dedicated to ensuring that my services are open and welcoming to people from various backgrounds. To uphold this dedication, I am excited to share that I am opening up opportunities for a select number of clients to pay fees based on their financial capabilities. This initiative is particularly aimed at individuals who identify as Trans, LGBQ, or BIPOC and require assistance. If you are interested in collaborating with me under these flexible payment terms, please feel free to get in touch without hesitation.
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Pricing
Information:
Coaching
80 MIN "MOCK DATE"
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$330
Therapy
80 MIN "MOCK DATE"
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$330
Workshops
PRICE DEPENDENT ON LENGTH
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$200/hr.
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Clients
Testimonials
Tori has this combination of goddess and teacher that makes people more able to to unfurl into their own sexuality in her presence. She’s so alive and joyful, and so fearless, and I’ve seen her open that same quality up in people, one on one, or in whole rooms. Such a special human being to be in the presence of and to work with!
Swoon aka Calidonia Curry
Through her gentle guidance and vast knowledge of somatic practices, Tori has helped me reconnect with my body and build a deeper, more loving relationship with myself.
Harrison Lee
Tori is a great listener and very thoughtful. She has helped me to become a better communicator both in and outside the bedroom.
Mike SmileZ
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FAQ - Frequent Questions
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How long will this process take?
The length of coaching sessions is tailored to meet the unique needs and objectives of each individual. While some clients may feel content after just a few sessions, others may prefer continuous assistance. It is advisable to begin with an initial consultation to address your specific circumstances and create a customized strategy. Through this discussion, we can offer a more accurate assessment of the timeframe needed to reach your goals.
2.
How much does it cost?
Our pricing structure is flexible, with rates tailored to suit the specific coaching or workshop you desire. We provide discounted packages for multiple sessions and personalized pricing for group workshops. Reach out to us directly for a customized quote that addresses your individual requirements and to address any financial queries you may have.
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What is meant by experiential coaching?
Experiential coaching is all about actively engaging in learning and self-improvement. It goes beyond just talking about theories by focusing on real-life experiences and hands-on activities. In our services, experiential coaching involves guided exercises, role-playing, and interactive workshops that aim to help you connect deeply with yourself, your emotions, and others. By immersing yourself in these practical experiences, you can gain a deeper understanding of concepts and achieve long-lasting transformation and improved intimacy.
4.
How is sex coaching different from sex therapy?
Sex coaching and sex therapy share the common goal of enhancing sexual well-being, yet they diverge in their methodologies and focal points.
Sex coaching adopts a results-driven approach, concentrating on attaining specific goals related to sexual interactions and relationships. It prioritizes education, emphasizing the acquisition and application of practical skills to enrich intimacy and pleasure. The coaching process is oriented towards the present and future, centered on current challenges and forthcoming enhancements rather than dwelling extensively on past experiences. It is action-focused, incorporating experiential activities, role-playing scenarios, and pragmatic advice.
In contrast, sex therapy employs therapeutic methods to tackle psychological, emotional, and relational concerns. It frequently involves a thorough examination of underlying psychological issues, past traumas, and emotional obstacles that impact sexual well-being. Sex therapy is commonly administered by licensed professionals with specialized expertise in sexual health and may necessitate long-term treatment to address deeply rooted issues. Essentially, while sex coaching delivers hands-on guidance for immediate progress, sex therapy delves into profound psychological exploration to confront fundamental issues at play.
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